I remembered a period in my life when I allowed the view others have of me to dictate how I felt about myself. For example, at one time my parent’s response to me and my accomplishments consumed me. At that point, I was doing so many things that I felt would make them proud of me until I realised that they were mostly unaware of my activities.
During this time I began to understand that my worth was grounded in Christ. The truth of His words should dictate who you are, If you are firmly rooted in how He sees you and what He thinks about you, then you will be unshakable. Let the value that He places on you dictates your worth.
What does not validate you
Your worth should not be held hostage to the kind of relationship that you have with your parents. Emotional connection is necessary but should not be an indicator of self-Worth. Sometimes when an individual experienced emotional or physical abuse the negative message from these experiences sometimes communicates worthiness and value. However, though this might be your history, you can heal. Abuse does not have to define you. You are not the total of all your experiences. You can develop the ability to take the positives from these incidents, use the painful things as learning opportunities and carve out a different life for yourself.
Why love matters
If we did not receive love and acceptance from our parents, this can challenge our sense of self. As children, we look to caregivers for validation and security, if secure attachment did not happen early in childhood, it could unbalance the rest of our lives.
However, we can form secure attachment in Christ so that He can take the place of our shaky foundation and stabilise us in Him. Having a firmer base will help us to build a new reality and shape for ourselves a different story grounded in who He says we are.
Trust and our worth
Because there are some, who have not dealt with the abuse suffered in early life, the abandonment and fear of rejection pushed to the background reappeared as lack of trust. Eventually, we project this pain unto God, and we struggle to believe that our worth is grounded him or that His words are truth.
Healing is a risk, stepping our and reaching out for support is a risk, but it is also precarious to stay in broken. I am going to encourage you to take a chance. Try letting go of the negative view of you and reach out for the new reality that is grounded in who God says you are.
Who does He say you are?
You’re worth the price of the son of God
If your thoughts are not echoing who God tells me you are, they are not true.
Sever ties with the lies that you have heard all your life
Replace them one thought at a time
Think about what is true, honest, praiseworthy