I had heard enough and wanted to leave, but decided to give him another chance just to see whether he would say anything about the pain that may influence unforgiveness. I was sitting under another sermon that was imploring us to forgive and forget. The speaker was extolling the virtues of forgiveness all of which I agree with by the way. However, when people are talking about forgiveness they tend to leave out crucial information that is relevant to the person expecting to forgive. The message of forgiving and forgetting can be damaging.
In my many years of working with individuals around healing, there is not many that refused to forgive. In fact, many embraces the idea of pardoning perpetrators of their hurt. The block seems to show up when they remember and still experience pain. Often speakers omit to encourage people to process the pain. I agree that Forgiveness is not an option Nevertheless when we talk about this topic we have a responsibility to teach people how to move on from the hurt and suffering. Sometimes this message is given in a cold way totally alien to the way Jesus dealt with the issue. How do we help people forgive and remember without the pain, Is it possible to remember and not hurt? You can heal from any pain or damage and move on free and unhindered by the past.
Forgiving is not Forgetting
Remembering without the pain is possible when you chose not to ignore the impact of your experiences but allow yourself the freedom to grow through them. Talking through your hurt will have an immediate impact on your relationships, it will influence how you feel about yourself and change the way you relate to others. Pursuing healing is not limiting it takes strength and courage to seek healing to stay with the process and enjoy a full and abundant life that God design for you. Here is an example of what it will look like when you step out.
Help to Move On
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